The act of being submissive for many involves a lot of high intensity pain and restraints of the heaviest leathers and iron cold manacles. Torture is a key staple in their lives as they crave punishment. They’re begging for attention in a variety of ways that usually end up with a well-deserved ass beating.
There are people who crave something different, something sexual, sensual and still involving the rush of erotic power exchange in their relationships. Sensual Domination can be inclusive of all the fun things such as bondage and hardcore role play. The difference usually lies in tone of commands issued by the dominant and use of different tactics such as restraints with softer materials more often thought of as sensual.
Silk and satin are great starters here as well as any fabric that is sleek, soft and leaves no marks.
Harsh commands need not be given to the person submitting as those are usually ineffective or less effective than the honey-like come hither of a Marilyn Monroe impression. The way a dominant moves in sensual domination involves graceful movements. With an air of playfulness, rather than outright control, the Sensual Dominant excites, titillates and teases their pray with sex toys such as vibrators, feathers, even their own fingernails. There can be an element of danger but trust is still the key component of allowing oneself to be dominated. The submissive still gets off on the power exchange dynamic yet the subtleties make all the difference.
Punishment doesn’t have to revolve around harsh and obscure tortures that require a myriad of devices that existed only in the middle ages. Rather, the threat of denial can work wonders.
With trust being the key issue here, the terms and actions of any event going forward are still negotiated and discussed so both parties get the amount of satisfaction they desire. Sometimes things happen that make the scenes even better than both partners imagine.
In public, displays of hidden dominance can be just as slight regardless of the style of play. Clothes can become symbols with meaning only to those who know and understand the BDSM lifestyle while those who are not kinky (or deny their kink) can remain in the dark.
exhibitionist, 
The problem with trying to analyze sexual language and people’s reactions to it is that it varies so much across regions, cultures, and subcultures. What sounds erotic to one person may sound perfectly vulgar to another. To an absolute prude, none of the naughtier words will ever sound nice, but especially for those who have a little tension between what they think they are supposed to be like and what they really desire, taking the chance and using some porn-ified language can be a major turn-on.
interesting. Watching scenes is a great way to learn some new things or get suggestions on how to improve one’s technique or skill set. If a person sees someone doing something interesting in the dungeon, its totally okay to talk to that person and ask them for some tips. Don’t interrupt a scene when people are playing, but once the scene and the aftercare is completed, go talk to the person. A good rule of thumb is when the people in the scene start mingling again, its safe to talk to them. Starting off with a compliment will nearly always get a favorable response, as long as its not an obvious ass-kissing kind of compliment. Sincerity goes a long way though, and a sincere compliment and honest desire to learn will usually be met with a willingness to share. 
Moans and other porn noises always make people look around to see what is happening. Even a sharp clap or spank will be enough to build an interested crowd.
finesse before approaching the orifice in question. Anyone who has ever wanted to play doctor already has some hot images of this in their mind. Why not put your legs in the stirrups for the gynecologist, or present yourself submissively for the prostate exam? It’s a hot porn waiting to happen. One might also try touching the whole body with latex gloves. It may not be just for pussy and ass anymore. The unusual sensation may be just what the back, thighs, or shoulders crave.
