The problem with trying to analyze sexual language and people’s reactions to it is that it varies so much across regions, cultures, and subcultures. What sounds erotic to one person may sound perfectly vulgar to another. To an absolute prude, none of the naughtier words will ever sound nice, but especially for those who have a little tension between what they think they are supposed to be like and what they really desire, taking the chance and using some porn-ified language can be a major turn-on.
There are a couple of general precepts for sexy singles to remember when attempting to get vocal. It is a good idea to ease into sexy language. If you’re on a first date and things start to get a little racy, you might want to use a general, suggestive sentence as innocuous as telling someone you want to touch them. Then, as you kiss, you might move your hand a little closer to a breast or inner thigh and sense the reaction. What you dont want to do is to be totally crass with suggestion of what you might like to stick where and when!
Once one is fully engaged in embraces, feeling up and down, maybe even finally fucking, using sexy words to describe what’s happening, or commenting on how good it all feels certainly can make the scene hotter. But again, not everyone likes the same words used, or even all that much talk when they are concentrating on moving around to get the best position to engage their pussy or cock with another person! If one is ready to talk dirty for a bit, one should gauge accordingly, how much dirty talk and how dirty it should get. Slow and steady wins the race here. Words that might skirt the boundaries of good taste, certain slang for certain body parts, might not just fly with every person, so one needs to tread carefully. Unless a couple has an explicit understanding that the very filthy words are ok, or even if one person likes humiliation or nasty insults, its best to avoid really hardcore slang.
Language is a powerful thing. The right word at the right time can send someone over the edge to phenomenal orgasmic bliss. The wrong word could send a person right back down to zero. Forgetting someone’s name and calling them the wrong one is not a good idea either!