In the kinky world of dominance and submission, many an act has gone awry. This is because the deep well of kinky fantasies concerning power exchange, slave and master/mistress and, in general, one person controlling another, touches on true punishment, and has consequences. For many, the very fact that an action has a result, and a comeuppance at that, is what the kink is all about. Others crave correction by their dominant, even if there is no specific direct sexual component to the punishment. Still others only ever want an erotic component to their play, no matter how much bondage, control, denial or pain is used.
There is certainly a different intent and therefore a different approach to the basics of punishment for a lesson and punishment as foreplay. Any well-seasoned kinky couple or player or BDSM porn watcher knows how to elongate a potential scene, how the set-up the room, spell out the transgression, make sure all of the specific accoutrements of what is about to happen are detailed. Whereas for an erotic scene, specifics maybe be a bit more hazy.
In a setting of pure punishment, there should be no deviation from the rules. In an erotic setting, the very fact that the domme does deviate is what adds sexual excitement. In a punishment setting, a full answer to one’s bad behavior must be delivered, in the case of the erotic time, a couple might not even get to the actual punishment.
Both scenes require attention to detail, but one requires a specific cause and effect, a reciting of what is going to happen and then execution of the plan from what has been promised, but in an erotic setting there is more wiggle room. In a punishment setting, wiggle room and dom deviating from his or her course or plan reveals a weak dom.
Lastly, and most importantly, orgasms are not allowed in the punishment setting and if a sub happens to cum during their punishment scene they need to be chastised or punished more for it. In an erotic scene, orgasms can be denied, edge play can be brought in to the play and be used as a punishment as much as anything else, but in the end ,orgasm for both parties is what is usually sought.