Posts Tagged ‘bondage’

Punishment or Foreplay

Friday, March 11th, 2011

In the kinky world of dominance and submission, many an act has gone awry. This is because the deep well of kinky fantasies concerning power exchange, slave and master/mistress and, in general, one person controlling another, touches on true punishment, and has consequences. For many, the very fact that an action has a result, and a comeuppance at that, is what the kink is all about. Others crave correction by their dominant, even if there is no specific direct sexual component to the punishment. Still others only ever want an erotic component to their play, no matter how much bondage, control, denial or pain is used.

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There is certainly a different intent and therefore a different approach to the basics of punishment for a lesson and punishment as foreplay. Any well-seasoned kinky couple or player  or BDSM porn watcher knows how to elongate a potential scene, how the set-up the room, spell out the transgression, make sure all of the specific accoutrements of what is about to happen are detailed. Whereas for an erotic scene, specifics maybe be a bit more hazy.
In a setting of pure punishment, there should be no deviation from the rules. In an erotic setting, the very fact that the domme does deviate is what adds sexual excitement. In a punishment setting, a full answer to one’’s bad behavior must be delivered, in the case of the erotic time, a couple might not even get to the actual punishment.

Both scenes require attention to detail, but one requires a specific cause and effect, a reciting of what is going to happen and then execution of the plan from what has been promised, but in an erotic setting there is more wiggle room. In a punishment setting, wiggle room and dom deviating from his or her course or plan reveals a weak dom.
Lastly, and most importantly, orgasms are not allowed in the punishment setting and if a sub happens to cum during their punishment scene they need to be chastised or punished more for it. In an erotic scene, orgasms can be denied, edge play can be brought in to the play and be used as a punishment as much as anything else, but in the end ,orgasm for both parties is what is usually sought.

Latex

Friday, March 4th, 2011

06Latex rubber is used most often in the fetish world as a form of clothing. It binds tightly to the body, hides very little and looks sleek enough to remain pleasing to the eye. Often seen in fetish clubs, latex appears so sleek that it looks like a second skin on many people. It has its own dedicated magazines and group following.  It’s actually a subculture of rubber fetishism.

Latex picks up body oils and retains warmth quite well so it should be noted that a dressing aid may be useful in helping the wearer put on the clothing. Talcum powder or some lubricant such as petroleum jelly will help guard against potential allergic reactions all while making it easier to put on the clothing.Latex clothing comes in a variety of fashions, sizes, shapes and colors. Everything from thongs, latex lingerie and bras have been made from latex all the way to the full body suit. Boots, gloves, masks and body suits found their way into the Fetish scene, giving the wearer a different look than the usual matte leather.

Most common articles of clothing include bondage mittens, hoods, goggles, ball gags, garter belts, boots, and even the daunting body bag.  Oils, metals, extreme sunlight, and sharp objects should be kept away from latex as it’s a fairly durable material. Proper storage of latex involves keeping your garments in black bags hunt in cool, dark places away from extreme temperatures. Latex should be cleaned shortly after wearing to remove any body oils that it has been exposed to. Rinse the garment well in warm water. Some manufacturers recommend using a mild soap, while others suggest only water. Hang on a plastic or wood hanger to dry, or lay flat to dry.

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The garment can be wiped gently with a soft towel to decrease drying time if desired. When one side is dry, turn inside out and let the other side dry as well. When completely dry, separate any latex that has stuck together and lightly dust the garment with talc to prevent any further sticking. Some will use a small amount of silicone dressing aid instead.  It is not recommended to store light and dark latex garments in direct contact as this can discolor the light latex.

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10 Best Films About Sex

Monday, January 31st, 2011

We all enjoy a flick that is primarily focused around sex. No, I’m not talking about free porn, but I am talking about those feature films that are completely based around sex and anything to do with it. Here is your list of the ten best films about sex:

1. Boogie Nights: This filmed was released in 1997, starring Mark Walhberg, Burt Reynolds, Julianne Moore and a few other notable actors like Philip Seymour Hoffman, Heather Graham, Don Cheadle and William H. Macy. The film was loosely based on the life of John Holmes and focuses on the pornography business and the star of the movie is a new comer to the business.

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2. The Last American Virgin: This teen comedy was released in 1982 and although it was mostly a comedy, it also shared a drama side to it. It focuses on groups of teens and their sex lives along with all its complications.

3. American Pie: This film has become the epitome of teen comedy that focus on sex and relationships throughout high school. It was released in 1999 and have many sequels, although they weren’t as successful as the first one.

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4. Unfaithful: This movie was all about a cheating spouse and her affair with a younger man. It starred Diane Lane, Richard Gere and Olivier Martinez. Was released in 1999 and even got an Oscar nomination for Diane Lane.

5. Secretary: A mixture of drama, romance and dark comedy, this movie stars James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal as a boss and secretary that become involved in a bondage type relationship.

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6. Nine 1/2 Weeks: This 1986 movie stars Kim Basinger and Mickey Rourke and takes a look at a couple who will try just about anything when it comes to sex.

7. Sex and the City: This HBO series turned movie follows four women in NYC and their love and sex lives.

8. Risky Business: This 1983 film stars Tom Cruise and focuses on a young man who starts his own brothel after a series of events.

9. The Graduate: This movie tells the story of a young college student who is seduced by an older woman, but finds himself falling in love with her daughter.

10. WIld Orchid: This movie is a sequel to Nine 1/2 Weeks and tells the erotic story of a woman and a man who have a series of sexual escapades in Rio.

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Adventure Sex

Friday, January 7th, 2011

Are you physically fit and ready to take the next step in adventure travel? Why don’t you try combining the best in fitness and outdoor exploration with the best in free porn with Adventure Sex? All you need to do is plan an adventure trip and plan on having some great sex at a destination that few may ever endeavor to reach. This is one of the few expeditions where you may want to remember both your white water life vest and your assortment of adult toys or even butt plugs.

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It is fine if you’d like to start your adventure sex out in a mellow way. How about a nice day hike? Hiking up even an hour or so into a gorgeous mountain range can be a wonderful thing to do on any nice day. Spring and fall will bring new life and wonderful colors to the foliage. To make it an erotic adventure all you need to do is bring along your honey and a ground cover to do the deed. Once a little off the trail where few hikers venture, you are free to get it on in the middle of nature.

Canoeing makes for a nice day that the average couple can handle. It can get strenuous and offers some adventure challenge. At the same time, there are a lot of canoeing spots where the water is mellow and you can enjoy the sights. Once far enough along the creek or river, you can try “canuding” and see how it feels to row in the buff. Stop off at a nice clearing for lunch and you can make love right on the shore. If surprised travelers pass by to witness your public sex, hopefully they’ll be good sports.

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Combining extreme sports with sex can get tricky. You’ll have to pay attention to how you’ll feel at high altitude if you’re climbing, and if your sexual exploit will include extra equipment, think of how much your erotic bondage gear weighs and how cumbersome it may be if you plan to take it skydiving, snowboarding, or the like. It would be amazing to do it on a mountain face or in a secret pool next to a giant waterfall. But remember, safety first—then sexual adventure.

Bondage Done Right

Sunday, December 26th, 2010

imagesThere are many forms of sex that people engage in, and one of the most common, in one form or another, is bondage. Bondage basically is, the idea of restraining a person either to intensify sex or as a prelude to fucking. Like everything else in our intimate lives though the types and degree or bondage varies widely from person to person. But bondage is, in one form or another, a rather popular sexual activity.

Bondage is also very risky and not something couples should engage in lightly or with just casual attention. One of the most common mistakes people make in regards to bondage is to confuse the reality of bondage as sex play with their fantasies or what they might have seen in porn movies or read in erotica books. But the fact is that bondage in reality is a very different specific type of intense play and unless couples can discern the difference between what they think they want and what they actually get, either by taking classes or reading some serious how-to books, then they should never, ever attempt bondage.

Communication is most important in sex, but doubly so in a bondage scene. The person being restrained must be able to say what is working in the scene and what is not working and, especially, when/if they might be in some trouble. It’s best never to use a gag or block the person being restrained airwaves or mouth, even if the participants want this. One should always be able to say what is working and what is not! Safe-words should be agreed upon at all times as they should always be in any sexual scenes involving dominant and submissive approaches.

It is also extremely important not to use homemade or cheap bondage equipment like scarves or rope or handcuffs. Bondage equipment that is built and sold by people who know how to do it right might be expensive but it is also designed to be safe for everyone using it. Using the wrong kind of stuff for bondage can be very, very dangerous as scarves can knot up and be difficult to open, handcuffs can cause very serious damage to skin, and ropes can cut off circulation leading to extreme injury.

Playing smart and playing safe means couple can play like porn stars for a very long time.

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There Are Two Sex Types-Which One Are You?

Tuesday, October 19th, 2010

Would you prefer to have sex in a tent in the middle of the dessert? Would you like to have it in the bathroom at the restaurant? Or, would you rather be sitting on your couch watching some must-see TV?

In a new CNN report, sexpert Ian Kerner broke sexual compatibility into two simple categories: He says either you’re a “comfort creature” or you’re a “thrill seeker” (ie. a porn enthusiast!). Apparently, there is nothing in between, and you’re either at one end of the spectrum or the other.

He backs up his theory by saying that the comfort creatures feed off routine and therefore rarely feel like switching things up in the bedroom. They tend to keep things pretty simple and rarely spice it up. While the thrill seekers like to try new things; maybe a little anal, some bondage, whatever they are interested in dabbling into.

Furthermore, sexual compatibility is highest when you mate with a like minded date. In other words, the comfort creatures feel most comfortable with fellow geeks and computer nerds per se, and thrill seekers prefer those who like their sex hot and heavy, with a side of adrenaline.

A lot of you reading this are probably wondering what would happen if a comfort creature and a thrill seeker hooked up? Would there be a catastrophic explosion? Well, Kerner says it’s usually not a huge problem. Especially if you’re in that new love, butterflies in the stomach, zone where you can’t keep your hands off each other. It’s after your hormones subside months later and doggie style sex was a thing of the past, and missionary is the go-to position.

There is some good news to these findings Kerner says. I guess that if two people of two different styles end up dating, it doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship will be doomed. You just have to be honest with your partner and express exactly what you want. If you do that, than he says that you probably wont end up having a scary sexless marriage. And let’s be honest, we definitely don’t want that!

Looking ahead to Valentine’s Day!

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

No, not in that cheesy Hallmark kinda way!

Looking for something really special to do? Then jump on a plane this heartsday and check out a bonerfide Detroit Valentines staple: The Dirty Show!

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