For both men and women there is a person, an action or ever words said that can be the proverbial end to arousal. Men find their cocks going flaccid, women their pussies drying up, by something said or done by their partner. Seconds before we couldn’t have even articulated what might have caused such a reaction but like the classic petard of not being able to un-ring a bell, once something is said, done or tried and it turns us off, turned-off we are, maybe permanently.

The boner-shrinker moments can be reasoned through even if not predicted or prevented. We know full well why certain things arouse us while others repel. When both feelings can come from the same person, a date we are seducing or even a long-term lover we thought, up to that moment, we knew everything about, it is startling to say the least but no less powerful. Just because we spend a good amount of time with someone and put a lot of attention into building an intimacy doesn’t mean they can’t literally be the buzz-kill in our life.

Some actions, speech or attitudes that turn us off are fleeting; they only surface when our partner is challenged or not feeling their best or simply feels passionate about something. Those passing seconds might chill us to the bone, see us retreat up off a pussy, pop a cock from our mouth or roll over in frustration, but we can weather the storm of those rough seas and get back to loving our partner once again by simply swallowing what they said, ignoring-as best we could-some silly momentary action on their part. It’s the prolonged true differences, the real meat and potatoes of what people are made of, the contrary natures we all have that surface time and again that cause us to flee or rethink or love-affairs. A stop in the action over some quick hurtle can be hopped, skipped and jumped if it doesn’t speak to the very nature of who a person is.

For the most part we are prepared to be confronted by the things we like and do not like about someone we are in a romance with. For those times we hope the caring we have built and the love we feel we see us through a few boner-shrinking seconds and get us back on the straight and narrow with our partner.