Once one comes to the conclusion that their pubescent sexual lift-off might lead their rocket on a slightly skewed trajectory, either because of one’s sexual preference or because of some rather naughty fantasies, one pretty much feels alone on their flight. To have a penchant for spanking before even trying it with a lover, or an idea one might like to cross-dress every so often, these needs can stain one a pariah unless one suddenly sees a whole bunch of other people with the same interests.
We’ll all pretty much feel we are the only person with a particular fetish until we are proved otherwise.
Everyday common variety sex is not a subject friends are so comfortable talking about with one another, add a little spice into the soup, a little perversion here and there or some modicum of kink and we’ll turn-off a lot more people-even close friends and maybe even dates-then we’re ever going to hope to turn-on. Our friends and family simply do not want to be led onto the highways and byways of what’s on our minds, especially if it’s a bit kinky.
But secrets can only stay hidden for so long. Sooner or later as we come to grow in confidence with a lover or spend enough time stewing in our own stew, our desires will will-out. One can try twisting one’s self in knots avoiding homosexuality, or try and not grow aroused by leather or the snap-crackle of a whip, but after a time all men-and women-have to face who they are and what they need to make them complete.
One can find all manner of downloadable porn, about a kink but once we meet people-on-line or off-that might share our fetish, the relief we enjoy is almost as palatable as the arousal we feel. When we can find or even join a community where we can connect with the link-minded, where we can find understanding, where we might even be able to indulge a desire or two then we find a home. We can indulge ourselves completely, protected and safe, and begin to see that what we might need might not be so very abhorrent at all and maybe just this side of normal if there is so many people doing it.
There are people who crave something different, something sexual, sensual and still involving the rush of erotic power exchange in their relationships. Sensual Domination can be inclusive of all the fun things such as bondage and hardcore role play. The difference usually lies in tone of commands issued by the dominant and use of different tactics such as restraints with softer materials more often thought of as sensual.
