It’s a cliche for a reason: a couple who used to have sex all the time gets married and their sex life dies. It seems like this is often talked about, and statistics show that it’s a common occurrence. So why is this happening? Here are a few common mistakes that married couples make in the bedroom, and how to solve them.

1) No Kissing: Kissing is the best kind of foreplay there is, and it seems that the familiarity of marriage can take away the mystery of lips. This doesn’t have to be the case however – lock lips more often and see where it leads!

2) No Surprises: Fucking should be fun. Just because you know every inch of your partner’s body doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t change things up: try some sex games or lingerie to add a little spice to your routine. Make every day your honeymoon and your partner is bound to swoon.

3) No variation in position: Sure, you’ve probably developed a routine that gets you off easily, but this isn’t a reason not to change things up. You don’t need to delve into the Kama Sutra, but hey, it might help! You can try a little anal play and explore fetishes as well – there’s nothing like actual kinks to make sex that much hotter.

4) Not being in the mood: Marriage brings added responsibility, and leads to stress. Perhaps the most common complaint from married couples is that they aren’t in the mood to get it on. It’s important to push yourself however, as a healthy sex life is actuality a natural de-stresser. The more active you become, the more active you’ll want to be.

5) No dirty talk: Most spouses consider their partner their best friend. When getting dirty however, it’s important to be vocal so don’t get quiet because you don’t want to offend your best friend. Remember, your spouse is your lover too, and everyone likes a little dirty talk!