Any one of us who has ever taken the time to watch a porn movie, even a snippet of one, would understand the fascination about them. Even if watching a visual representation of sex is not your cup-of-tea it’s not a stretch to imagine it is for so many people. But there are very few adults who watch porn on a regular basis who would ever say they prefer it to real face-to-face intimacy with another person. They might opine that there is less work to be had sitting in front of one’s P.C. screen and jacking or jilling-off to a ten second clip, or that an entire cornucopia of fantasies can attend one when alone watching a dirty movie, fantasies that could just as easily get ripped out of one’s play possibilities when with a partner who does not want to entertain fantasies. But the actual sensations, anticipations and wonder we have when in the embrace and care of another person can never be matched by porn.
But we need to be up for being intimate. What is true about porn and how it is better than face-to-face sex is when we are not up for or interested in intimacy. Then porn could very well replace all the great sensations we get rubbing up against another human being. When all we want is quiet, to stay within our own heads, to imagine those fantasies we might never make reality to their fullest extreme…this is when porn might very well beat real-life humping hands-down.
It’s really where our minds are at, more than our bodies, that makes porn good, better and best. As with everything else, desire is the key and have we a desire to be close, to open our hearts and imaginations to another, to let someone see our vulnerable side then being with someone is what we will gravitate towards. Have we a desire to stay within ourselves, safe and completely immersed in fantasy, then porn works fine.
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