Sure it’s a well known fact that gender brain waves and thought patterns differ: that men will simply not notice what surrounds a problem as much as try to find the most straight away solution, to be functional, quick and true; that women need to meander round their point, make their man see their point, then belabor their point even if it was a solution she came up with days before. The question has been in that classic now cliché Mars and Venus approach, what if gay people get together, does gender assume these classic planetoid suppositions or is it something more?
For the most part gay couples don’t get off an easier. The grand differences still exist between lesbians or homosexual men, they are just not informed by biology; it seems to be more a mindset then if one owns a cock or pussy. Mars and Venus dont just simply orbit the straight end of the street.
In most relationships, gay, straight, poly, bi, there is usually a partner that takes on the typical male role in things-i.e. the decision maker, the aggressor in bed and house finances, the last say when rearing the children-and someone who takes on the feminine-the housekeeper, the nurturer, the one who understands and tries to keep peaceful the mood of the household. We see the cliché but true roles of lipstick lesbian living with their dyke counterparts, bears courting twinks or gay queens living with a boy toy or a rough neck. Into this complex mix of types, that Mars/Venus petard spins and we find homosexual couples enjoying the very same often confusing, sometime arresting romantic differences straight couples encounter.
Gay couples might think that they can skirt the pitfalls of hetero relationships by not being allowed same sex marriage or not caring for civil unions, but what none of us can avoid is how our minds work and as long as there is the two different mindsets in a relationship, regardless of sex, then the division will always exist between one person thinking masculine and the other thinking feminine. There will always be the round about as opposed to the straight ahead, the multi layered v.s. the shallow, the fast solution against the more drawn-out one. Nobody gets away unscathed the minute they delve into a love affair.