Pain is a part of everyone’s lives, from the agony of an injury to the every day aches and pains we all feel as our lives grow longer and we grow older and less well put together. It may seem strange that anyone would seek out more pain than they already have to deal with, and yet there are very many out there, not just the extreme masochists of a freak show, but regular people who enjoy a little bit of consensual pain play in the bedroom. Ever loved being bitten on the neck? Or had a lover dig fingernails into one’s flesh during passionate intimacy and found it incredibly erotic? If so, then the right kinds of pain should be in one’s sexual repertoire in order to live a fully realized and free sex life.
Today more and more of the free porn videos on the Internet include some kind of fetish play, and very often this includes some kind of sadism or masochism. Whether it is a man spanking a girl during doggy style fucking or a girl pulling the man’s hair to drag him into her pussy, there is some element of power exchange and painful roughness. Why is this kind of thing enjoyable to anyone? Why do so many porn stars have big smiles in the after sex interviews which are so common in fetish porn?
In our brains when we are injured, our brain and nervous system release chemicals called endorphins which are like natural forms of the drug opium, creating pleasurable sensations along with a relief from the pain. Similar endorphins are also released during normal sexual interactions, so it should come as no surprise that sometimes the wires get crossed and what is painful can suddenly become pleasurable. Much of sex already crosses that barrier — taken out of contexts, some passionate noises can also sound like agony and vice versa.