It is not uncommon for a person to discover a general interest in something different when it comes to their sexuality. There may not be a certainty, as in the case of a guy who wanted to wear his mothers and sisters clothes since he was five, but there is the acknowledgement that a constant diet of nothing but the missionary position is not going to cut it for them. In that case, a bit of experimentation is in order. As with any other adventure in life, sexual adventure sometimes just starts with jumping in and experiencing.
A curious fetish explorer might first want to try out costumes, if that feels like a direction that draws some sexual energy. Costumed sexual experiences-Cos Play-are all the rage for some, and the big turn-on can come from dressing up as a superhero, a doctor or a naughty nurse, a butler, a bimbo, or just about anything or anyone that the imagination can conjure. Crossdressing has a very deep appeal to those who have feelings of blended or cross-gender, and to those who would just really love to feel how it would be to fuck or be fucked as the opposite sex.
There is plenty to play with in the realm of costumes alone. Adding various behaviors can make it even more interesting. Those interested in the BDSM world can start out by buying a few items that help with the look, like a corset or a collar, or may just feel free to try out sensation play without the need to look the part of a kinky lover. An easy way to start out is to see how open-handed spanking feels. It might feel great to receive but not to give, or the other way around. One person, generally called a switch, may also find both top and bottom roles to be pleasurable and exciting. When looking for new sensations, there are endless possibilities. Just a few include feathers, candle wax, floggers, paddles, warm and cold foods, and faux fur. The sex toy store is a good place to check out, while remembering that just about any store will have something that looks mundane to most, but can be used to enhance an adventurer’s sensory and sexual enjoyment.