If one truly isn’t skirting the bounds of pedophilia, there is a healthy porn tradition of adult porn actresses dressing acting like young women to titillate their male audiences. As with all porn, everyone involved realizes this is a fantasy and role-play ensues with school girl outfits and patter. It might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but it certainly is a common oft-mined fantasy in dirty movies.

The reality of an older man truly bedding a young girl without either breaking his hip or growing so bored with the girl’s actions doesn’t intrude on the porn fantasy. What works in our heads and even on film so seldom does in reality, as we have all seen time and again as we try to marry a fantasy in the clear light of day. A man shouldn’t be damned his need for this little playacting, especially when he knows clear well the women acting so young are not and when he really wouldn’t want a 16 year old in his bed for real!

The daddy fantasy, the school principal punishing the errant student, the coach being seduced by his star player, these and more cliché’s fuel porn as they do fantasy. They are healthy manifestations of the taboo, of enjoying the bloom of youth, of ruminating about that which none of us would really care to have and only want in the realm of heightened porn recreations. As most sane adult men are well aware it’s ever more enjoyable, the connections are deeper and the sex will always be bound to be better if one is intimate with a partner closer to one’s own age.

But porn lifts us, captures us; sometimes even seduces us beyond a healthy range of wanting to have it in our life. It is no wonder our most unusual kinks and maybe slightly perverse, slightly illegal fantasies-if acted upon-should reside in our dirtiest dreams. As long as we know why we want what we want and understand it is all fantasy, then the wanting is perfectly fine.